Wang Xianzhi (王獻之)(344-386 AD)
His surname was Wang, his parents called
him Xianzhi, his friends called him Zijing as he grew up, and he was born in
Shandong Province, China.
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王 |
It means what the king means. It is also
one of the Chinese surnames. |
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獻 |
It means dedication. It is also one of
the Chinese surnames. |
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之 |
It means growth. This word has many
meanings, and I will only give one of them here. It is also one of the
Chinese surnames. |
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子 |
It means little children. It is also one
of the Chinese surnames. |
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敬 |
It means respect. It is also one of the
Chinese surnames. |
He was a famous official in the Jin Dynasty
of China. His family was the most powerful family in the Jin Dynasty and many
of his family members served as ministers in the central government. He is one
of the most outstanding calligraphers in Chinese history.
There is a story about him recorded in
history books.
His wife's name is (Xi Daomao). He and his
wife grew up together and they have a very good relationship.
He was very handsome and talented, and the
princess of the Jin Dynasty was in love with him. She told the king.
I love Wang Xianzhi and I want to marry
him.
The King of Jin Dynasty replied.
He is already married and cannot marry you.
The Jin Dynasty princess said.
I must marry him. I am your most beloved
daughter and you must help me to fulfil my wish.
The King of the Jin Dynasty forced (Wang
Xianzhi) and (Xi Daomao) to divorce and asked (Wang Xianzhi) to marry the
princess.
Wang Xianzhi initially refused, but if he
did not comply with the king's request, his entire family could be implicated.
He was under great pressure and eventually compromised.
He once wrote a letter to (Xi Daomao) after
his divorce from (Xi Daomao).
These words were written in the letter.
We have grown up together since childhood,
and every day after we got married is very happy. I like being with you every
day. We once agreed to experience all the beautiful things in this world
together. I feel very happy every moment I am with you every day.
I thought I could be with you until we both
grew old, and I never imagined that we would suddenly be forced to part. It
never occurred to me that we wouldn't be together anymore.
After leaving you, my heart feels as if
it's being pressed down by a huge rock and I can't breathe.
Will I have a chance to see you again? Will
we have the chance to be together again?
The thought that we can't be together again
makes me feel very sad inside and I can't stop myself from crying.
I'm so heartbroken, I don't think I'll ever
be happy again in my life, I think only when I stop breathing will I stop
feeling sad about our separation.
In 386 AD, Wang Xianzhi fell seriously ill
and his family held a Taoist prayer ceremony for him.
His family asked him during the ceremony.
What mistakes have you made in your life?
Do you think you have ever let anyone down? Whose forgiveness would you most
like to ask?
He thought for a few minutes and then spoke
quietly to his family.
There is only one thing I can think of that
makes me feel the need to repent, and that is that when I was young, I did not
resist the pressure from my family and the royal family, and I chose to divorce
(Xi Daomao) at that time.
I would like to tell (Xi Daomao) that I am
very sorry that I did not persist in defending our love.
Dear friends, what are your feelings or
thoughts after listening to this story?
If you were to die today, who would you
want to confess to? What is the thing you regret the most?
I hope this story can bring you some new
insights.
王獻之(Wang Xianzhi)(西元344-西元386)
他的姓是王，他的父母給他取的名字是獻之，成年後朋友稱呼他的名字是子敬，他出生地位於在中國的山東省。
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王 |
意思是國王的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。 |
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獻 |
意思是奉獻的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。 |
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之 |
意思是生長的意思。這個字有非常多的意思，這邊只舉出其中一個意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。 |
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子 |
意思是小孩子的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。 |
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敬 |
意思是尊敬的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。 |
他是中國晉王朝的一個著名的官員，他的家族是晉王朝中最有權力的一個家族，他的很多家人都在中央政府內擔任大臣。他是中國歷史上一個很優秀的書法家，
歷史書上記載過一個關於他的故事。
他的妻子名字叫做(郗道茂)，他與他的妻子從小一起長大，他們兩個人的感情非常好。
他長得很英俊又很有才華，晉王朝的公主暗戀他，晉王朝的公主對國王說。
我愛王獻之，我要跟他結婚。
晉王朝的國王回答。
他已經結婚了，他沒有辦法娶妳為妻。
晉王朝的公主說。
我一定要跟他結婚，我是你最愛的女兒，你一定要幫我實現我的這個願望。
晉王朝的國王強迫(王獻之)與(郗道茂)離婚，並且要求(王獻之)與公主結婚。
王獻之原先不肯答應，但是如果他不答應國王的要求，可能會連累他的整個家族，他遭受了極大的壓力，最後他終於妥協了。
他在與(郗道茂)離婚之後曾經寫過一封信給(郗道茂)。
這封信中寫著這些話。
我們從小到大一直長大，我們結婚後的每一天都非常的開心，我很喜歡每天陪伴在你身邊。我們曾經約定好要一起感受這個世界上所有美好的事物，我每天跟你再一起的每一刻我都感覺到我非常的幸福。
我本來以為我可以跟你一起到我們兩個人都年老，我從來都沒想到我們竟然會突然被迫分開。我從來沒想到我們會不能再一起。
離開你之後我的心感覺就像被一塊巨大的石頭壓著，我感到無法呼吸。
我以後還會有機會跟妳再見面嗎?我們還會有機會再一起嗎?
想到我們無法再相聚，我的內心就感到非常的悲傷，我無法克制我自己流下眼淚。
我太心痛了，我想我這輩子都無法再感到快樂，我想只有在我停止呼吸之後，我才會不在為我們的分離感到難過。
西元386年，王獻之生了一場重病，他的家人們為他舉辦一場道教的祈福儀式。在這場儀式中，他的家人問他。
你這輩子曾經做了什麼錯事，你覺得你曾經對不起誰嗎?你最想要祈求誰的寬恕?
他想了幾分鐘後輕輕地對他的家人說。
我現在腦海中只出現一件令我感到需要懺悔的事，這件事就是我在年輕時沒有抵抗住家族與皇室給的壓力，我那個時候選擇跟(郗道茂)離婚。
我想對(郗道茂)說我非常的抱歉，我沒有堅持到底地去捍衛我們的愛情。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的感受或有怎樣的想法呢。
你如果今天會死，你會想對誰表示懺悔呢?你心中覺得最遺憾的事情是那件事呢?
希望這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為晉書-卷80-王獻之傳
https://zh.wikisource.org/wiki/%E6%99%89%E6%9B%B8/%E5%8D%B7080
出處為王獻之-奉對帖
https://digitalarchive.npm.gov.tw/Collection/Detail/27710?dep=P