Go to a good friend's house to meet his
mother.(升堂拜母)
During the Three Kingdoms period in China,
there was an important general in the Kingdom of Wu. His name was Zhou Yu.
There is a story about him in the history
books.
Zhou Yu was very tall and very handsome.
He had a very good friend named Sun Ce.
Their family backgrounds are very close and
their ideas are very similar.
They became good friends soon after they
met.
The time they lived in was the last years
of the Han Dynasty.
All parts of China were controlled by
warlords, and the central government of the Han Dynasty was unable to control
these warlords.
These warlords fought many wars against
each other for land and resources.
Because of the war, Zhou Yu suggested that
Sun Ce take his mother and other family members and move to Zhou Yu's hometown.
Sun Ce accepted Zhou Yu's proposal.
When Sun Ce moved to Zhou Yu's hometown
with his mother and family, Zhou Yu took the initiative to give Sun Ce and his
family a house in his hometown to live in.
In ancient China, in addition to blood
brothers, some good friends had a special relationship similar to that of
brothers.
When two good friends have a very good
relationship, they may perform some special rituals or actions to express that
their relationship is as close as that of brothers.
One way of doing this is to go to the other
person's home to meet the other person's mother and to perform for the other
person's mother etiquette that only biological children should perform. This
ceremony means that the other person's mother is equal to one's own mother.
After the ceremony, it means that the relationship between the two people is
that of brothers, and the two people will help each other in the future of
their lives.
After Sun Ce's family moved to Zhou Yu's
hometown, Zhou Yu went to Sun Ce's house to meet Sun Ce's mother. Zhou Yu
treated Sun Ce's mother with etiquette that only biological children should
follow.
After completing these ceremonies, the two
of them embraced each other happily.
Zhou Yu said to Sun Ce.
From now on, we will face all the
difficulties in life together, we will make our own careers together in this
chaotic era, we will remain loyal to each other, and we will help each other
when we need each other.
This idiom means going to a good friend's
house to meet his mother.
It is used to describe a relationship
between two people that is as close as that of brothers.
Dear friends, what inspiration or thoughts
do you have after listening to this story?
Do you have a friend who is better than
your own brother? Do you know the family of your best friend?
I hope this story can give you some new
insights.
升堂拜母(Go to a good friend's house to meet
his mother.)
中國的三國時代，東吳王國有一個重要的將軍，他的名字叫做(周瑜)。
歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。
周瑜的身材很高大，而且他的長相非常英俊。
他有一個非常好的朋友，這個朋友的名字叫做孫策。
他們的家世很接近，而且他們的想法也都很契合。
他們認識後很快就成了很好的朋友。
他們兩個人生活的年代是漢王朝的末年。
中國各地被軍閥控制，漢王朝的中央政府沒有能力控制這些軍閥。
這些軍閥彼此之間為了爭奪土地與資源發生了很多戰爭。
因為戰爭的緣故，所以周瑜便建議孫策帶著他的母親與其他的家人搬家到周瑜的家鄉。
孫策接受了周瑜的提議。
當孫策與他的母親和家人搬到周瑜的家鄉後，周瑜主動把自己家鄉裡的一間房子給孫策一家人居住。
在中國的古代，除了血緣上的親兄弟之後，有些好朋友間會有一種特殊的類似親兄弟般的關係。
兩個好朋友如果感情非常的好，這兩個好朋友可以透過一些特殊的儀式或者行動來表示這兩個人的關係就像是親兄弟一樣的親近。
這種儀式中的其中一種方式，就是要到對方的家裡見對方的母親，並且對對方的母親實行一種親生子女才該行的禮儀。這個儀式表示對方的母親就等於自己的母親，舉行完這個儀式後表示這兩個人關係就是兄弟關係，這兩個人要在往後的人生中要互相幫助。
孫策全家人搬到周瑜的家鄉後，周瑜就到孫策的家中見了孫策的母親，周瑜對孫策的母親實行這種親生子女才該行的禮儀。
在舉辦完這些儀式之後，他們兩個人開心的相互擁抱。
周瑜對孫策說。
從今天開始，我們要一起挑戰人生中遇到的各種困難，我們要一起在這個混亂的時代開創出屬於自己的事業，我們會對對方保持忠誠，我們會在彼此有需要的時候相互幫助。
這句成語的意思是到好朋友的家中去拜見好朋友的母親。
這句成語被用來形容兩個人的關係就像是親生兄弟一樣的親近。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你有這種比親生兄弟更好的朋友嗎?你認識你最好的朋友的家人嗎?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為三國志-卷54-吳書周瑜傳及裴松之注引-江表傳
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